Building Self-Esteem: Key Strategies
Self-esteem is the foundation of how we see ourselves and our place in the world. When it’s strong, we’re more confident, resilient, and able to handle life’s ups and downs. But when it’s low, even small setbacks can feel overwhelming. Whether you’ve struggled with self-worth for years or are simply feeling stuck in negative self-talk, the good news is this: self-esteem can be built. With intention and practice, you can learn to see yourself through a kinder, more empowered lens.
What Does Low Self-Esteem Look Like?
Low self-esteem isn’t always obvious. It can show up in subtle ways, like second-guessing yourself, avoiding challenges, or minimizing your achievements. Common signs include:
Emotional Signs:
Feeling inadequate or “not good enough”
Constant self-criticism or guilt
Struggling with imposter syndrome or comparing yourself to others
Behavioral Signs:
Avoiding opportunities due to fear of failure
Difficulty accepting compliments
Staying in unhealthy relationships or settling for less than you deserve
If any of this resonates, know that you’re not alone—and that you’re capable of changing the way you see and treat yourself.
Exercises to Boost Self-Worth
Improving self-esteem takes time and consistent effort, but small daily actions can make a big difference. Here are some exercises that can help:
1. Self-Compassion Journaling
Take 5 minutes a day to write down three kind things you can say to yourself. Focus on the tone you’d use with a close friend. Example: “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough today.” Over time, this practice helps rewire your inner voice to be more supportive.
2. Identify Your Strengths
List at least five strengths, talents, or qualities you appreciate about yourself. If this feels hard, think about compliments others have given you or moments you’ve felt proud. Revisit and add to this list regularly.
3. Challenge Negative Beliefs
Write down a negative belief you often have about yourself (e.g., “I’m not smart enough”). Then write evidence against it. What past experiences prove that belief wrong? What would someone who loves you say in response?
4. Set Small, Achievable Goals
Confidence grows through action. Choose one small goal each week—like trying something new, speaking up, or setting a boundary. Celebrate your effort, not just the outcome.
5. Practice Mirror Talk
Look in the mirror and say something positive to yourself each morning. It might feel awkward at first, but this simple habit can slowly help reshape your internal dialogue.
6. Surround Yourself with Positivity
Pay attention to the people, media, and environments you engage with. Choose influences that uplift, support, and affirm your worth—not ones that tear it down.
7. Keep a “Wins” List
Create a running list of personal victories—big or small. Maybe you finished a project, asked for help, or simply got out of bed on a hard day. These wins matter. Review your list when your confidence needs a boost.
How Therapy Can Support Self-Esteem Growth
Sometimes, low self-esteem is rooted in deeper experiences like childhood criticism, trauma, or past rejection. Therapy aimed at self-esteem issues offers a space to explore those roots, challenge old beliefs, and build new ways of relating to yourself.
A therapist can help you:
Uncover and shift negative thought patterns
Set boundaries and develop assertiveness
Work through shame or self-doubt
Build a more compassionate self-image
Create goals and stay accountable to your growth
Reclaim Your Confidence at Feel Your Way Therapy
At Feel Your Way Therapy, we believe every person is worthy of self-respect, love, and acceptance. If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why don’t I feel good enough?” or “How do I build confidence in myself?”, we’re here to support your journey.
You don’t have to wait for the “perfect” version of yourself to show up—you are already worthy, right now. Let’s work together to uncover your strengths and help you feel empowered, one step at a time.
